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Alright—we’re not going to lie—this wedding had us at the tasseled slippers….and the paisley slippers…and the silk jackets for the sparkler send-off. We’re totally smitten with Jason and Trey’s fashion choices at their wedding at the Berkeley Hotel in Asbury Park. There are six (!) beautifully tailored jackets in total and it occurred to us that it’s so commonplace for a bride to change to a second gown, why doesn’t the groom don a new jacket?? Jason and Trey provide plenty of inspiration in the form of ceremony tuxes, cocktail jackets and evening jackets, so take a moment to get inspired by Erin H. Photography who captured all the joy and love of the couple’s big day.


About the couple:

I (Jason) am a fashion designer, so our clothes choices were very exciting to me. We both wore 2(X)IST (2official2xist) underwear (that is the fashion collection I design in NYC) and the collection is called “The Affair”. I designed that line purposefully for our wedding, and for black tie affairs (men don’t really have a go-to for black tie affairs for underwear.)


Why did you choose Asbury Park?

Trey and I chose Asbury Park because we absolutely love the Berkeley Hotel — it had everything we were looking for in a wedding venue, including a strong, masculine feel that was hard to find in other nearby venues. But more generally, we chose to get married in Asbury Park because this community became our second home after purchasing a beach cottage in Ocean Grove in the Spring of 2012. After 2.5 years of long-distance dating, Trey moved from DC to NYC in early 2011, so our decision to purchase a weekend home gave us an opportunity to create a place of our own together, as a unit, for the first time. We wanted our family and friends to gather on the shore to experience that and see where we decided to start our life together.


What was the most special moment?

Jason: The MOST Special was Trey surprising me with a private dance to Etta James “At Last.” I told him I always wanted to dance to that song, But Trey wanted to do something more exciting and original and chose Beyonce “End of Time.” I had no idea, but Trey arranged with the band to play “At Last” privately while our guests were at cocktail hour. We sneaked inside the reception to see the decorations (I thought) and then the band started playing. It was SO Romantic and so special because it was just for us!


Trey: I had so many special moments throughout the day — and even the whole weekend. It was really overwhelming and humbling to look up and see so many of our nearest and dearest bearing witness to our love and interacting with each other — so many different lives crossing paths, and I loved it. At the end of the night, the band played Lady Gaga’s “Born this Way,” and I looked out over the dance floor and saw so many of the people I’m blessed to call friends and family jumping around, dancing, drinks flying and huge smiles. That was a moment that will stand out forever in my mind. I also had a few special moments with my mom that night, during which we commented on our journey — from coming out to marriage. It’s been a long road, but we made it together, and I’m so grateful to have always had their unconditional love and support, even when they didn’t understand. It was really emotional to stand in that moment, with my husband, and reflect on the road to this point and all who have held me up along the way, including my parents, friends and family.


Photographer: Erin H. Photography // Wedding Planner: Backyard Bride Kaysie McKay // Florist: Peter James Floral // Caterer: Falco’s Catering // Venue: Berkeley Hotel  // Custom Wedding Bands: Mocuin // Trey had his eyebrows groomed by celebrity stylist Joey Healy, from BRAVO TV’s “The Singles Project”.

Jason’s Tuxes: Ivory Jacket: Paul Smith  // Tuxedo Shirt & Bowtie: Suit Supply // Tuxedo pants: Tailored Fit Express Men  // Shoes: Jimmy Choo // Paisley Evening Jacket: (dance with Mom) Gucci // Paisley Slippers: Del Toro // Ice Blue Evening Jacket: (Grooms’ dance) Tom Ford

Trey’s Tuxes: Black Tuxedo (jacket and pants) J. Crew // Bowtie: Neiman Marcus // Shoes: Del Toro // Cocktail Jacket: (Dance with Mom): Mr. Turk // Party Jacket: Custom made by Harlem Haberdashery NYC