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Dear Brides, all y’all, current, and future,

Hear me when I say, there will be losing battles, and that’s OK. For instance, we put a lot of energy into making sure our DIY invitations didn’t look cheap or tacky so to top things off we splurged on nice stamps. You know, the ones with the pretty roses? As it turns out, you need to stamp the return envelopes too as a courtesy to your guests (duh). Our first mistake was that we only bought enough postage for the main envelopes. Oops. May you learn from our mistakes!

Wedding Blog Invitation Postage

 What we hoped for. (Oh So Beautiful Paper)

The mini return envelopes were the first part of the invitations to be finished, so naturally I started stamping them with the pretty rose stamps. About halfway through I realized we wouldn’t have any stamps left for the main envelopes, so off we went to the post office to get more. On that particular day, all they had were sunburst stamps, so we snagged some of those instead. Not ideal, but sunbursts are nice too. We finally finished the invitations about a week later and brought them to the post office. A good wedding hack to remember is never just drop your invitations into the mailbox. Always take them directly to the post office and have them weighed. I knew someone who put all of their invitations in the mail and it turned out they didn’t have enough postage so the invitations got sent back and a few went missing. Save yourself the headache by having the post office officially weigh them.

Our second mistake was not buying forever stamps. Again, may you learn from our mistakes. A week or so had passed and it just so happened that the national stamp price increased to 49 cents and we had stamped everything with 46 cents stamps. Shockingly, the United States Post Office would not just comp us 3 cents an invite. Shucks.

Turns out the only 3 cent stamp they had was an ugly red one with a silver coffee pot on it. And just like that we went from pretty roses and wedding sunbursts, to coffee pots. COFFEE POTS!

This is what we ended up with.

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Full confession? I thought, “So what?” No one ever said, “Remember the stamps on those wedding invitations? Those ugly things ruined the whole event for me.” Trust me, no one will remember the stamps. So yeah, our guests received great invitations with really ugly looking stamps (sorry guest!). And that’s how this wedding planning thing goes—there will be mistakes, hiccups, and detours but if at the end of the day you end up married to your best friend, ya done good kid.  Ugly stamps be damned.

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The coolest thing yet to happen in our wedding planning process occurred last weekend: we got our wedding bands.

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Yes, the bands! (No those aren’t them, they are being engraved as I type.) I know, I know, that’s not nearly as exciting as the dress or as sexy as the honeymoon plans but it has been, hands down, my most favorite moment until now. I went into wedding band shopping with the idea that it was one more thing to check off my massive wedding to-do list. Shamefully, I had given the wedding band part of this 0% of my attention.

And so, Paul and I jumped in the car on a sunny Saturday afternoon and headed out to get the envelopes for our wedding invitations. We had no intention of shopping for our bands. We love a good weekend drive to anywhere outside the craziness of Manhattan so we ventured over to Summit, New Jersey, where we found a lovely paper store with the envelopes we needed for our glorious DIY invitations.

After a quick and fun time picking out envelopes we decided to grab lunch from Tito’s Burritos. Two very full stomachs later we decided to stroll for a bit, walk off the extra quesadilla, and head back to the car. As we did, we passed a cute little jewelry shop called, Frederic Goodman Fine Jewelers. I stopped in my tracks, pulling Paul’s hand back as I did. “Want to go try on more wedding bands?” He whined for a quick second, in no mood to go looking, yet again, because he already planned to use the same jeweler who made my engagement ring in Manhattan.

I pulled the ol’, “It’ll be fun,” line and dragged him in. We had a fabulous lady named Dianne greet and help us. From there, things went weirdly perfect. For instance, the ring on display that Paul liked fit him perfectly. At the same time Paul was trying it on, a middle-aged man with salty-grey hair and Patagonia jacket walked in. He had a certain glow about him. He looked down at us and made some funny comment about how rings never seem to come off once they go on. I asked what kind of ring he had and he slid it off and tossed it to us. Dianne, after a brief fumble, caught it from behind the counter. It was a well-worn, simple gold band. I asked how long he’d been married and he said going on 28 years this June. “JUNE!,” I thought. That’s when we’re getting married! On his way out he looked at me and said, “It only gets better from here.” He patted Paul on the shoulder and told him it was the best thing he’s ever done.

Paul and I were so taken aback by his gentle spirit and cheerful championing of marriage in general. A favorite song of mine played softly over the speakers and the winter sun came pouring in. Paul had found his ring. It just felt right. Just as unexpectedly, I tried on a band very different, yet very complimentary, to my engagement ring and, sure enough, it too just felt right.

We walked out of there with both rings, tucked into the prettiest blue ring boxes you could ever imagine.

Even more than my sparkly engagement ring, I love, full-heartedly, my wedding band. And not because it’s big or flashy or made by some fancy designer–it’s not any of those things. No, I love my wedding band because it symbolizes a promise–a promise to spend every Christmas together for the rest of our lives, a promise to bring each other buttered toast and medicine when the other is sick, a promise to raise a family full of chunky babies, a promise to rush home every night for the rest of eternity just to see each other, crawl into bed together and fall asleep holding hands (like otters). This wedding band is what it’s all about–a promise to love, unconditionally and without reservation for the rest of our lives. There is an overwhelming sense of peace that comes along with this. And that, dear Reader, is something so powerful I’ve never felt anything like it.

 

Wedding Blog A Serious Head Case

As we inch closer and closer to our wedding date, it’s time to finalize the ‘little’ details that come along with the big day {table numbers, escort cards, favors, dress alterations, etc.}. My dress is almost perfect, just a few more tweaks here and there. I have the shoes and jewelry picked out, but what is left is the final piece to tie everything together – the head piece. Our wedding is traditional and while I can see myself wearing a veil when I walk down the aisle, I am also very much a head piece kind of gal. I love the concept of fascinators, which may stem from this blog post I wrote ages ago. After doing research I came across Handmade by Sara Kim and instantly fell in love with her pieces – one in particular – but I wanted to share my top four head pieces from the collection.

Let me know your favorite below!
Left to Right: One | Two | Three | Four
Source: Handmade by Sara Kim, Graphic Designed by Samantha Peterson

 

After much internal turmoil and debate, I decided to design and print our save the dates {I briefly toyed with this idea in this post}. I went through many drafts before creating the final save the date that we mailed to our guests. In addition to using a photo from our engagement session, we added a magnet backing so our guests wouldn’t easily loose our save the date weeks from now. I printed our save the dates at my office as well as mailed them out through our office mail room, this allowed to me to save money on all aspects of this process.
I initially scoured Wedding Paper Divas and Minted to find the perfect design, however; the price tag halted me from ever pulling the trigger. A girlfriend of mine used Paperless Post to email and print her destination wedding invitations and I briefly looked into that as well. In the end, for our budget, it worked out best for me to design them. Next up on the design block is our invitation suite which I will be designing as well!
Below are a few drafts that didn’t make the cut for one reason or another, I can’t wait to reveal the final product!
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Did you send out Save the Dates, did you do a paper invite or magnet? A postcard by chance? Leave a comment below letting us know your plan for Save the Dates?

Well happiest of New Years to you my fine Readers! I hope you’ve all had a wonderful holiday season. I, for one, am not entirely sure where the last six months of my existence have gone. Regardless, it’s long gone, that’s for sure. I’m happy to say that we’re five months out from the big day. Yes, that’s right. The photographer, caterer, venue, DJ, dress, bridesmaids—they are all either done, bought or booked. Glory. Now we just need to pay them all. Gulp. Allow me to bring you up to speed on all the details below. But first, I’m in need of some HELP!

HELP NEEDED: Bridesmaid dresses

The bridesmaid dresses have absolutely been the bane of my wedding existence. Does anyone know where I can find mauve colored dresses as cute as these? Help a bride-to-be out!

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W&E Photographie

On to more concrete details…

VENUE: LaBelle Winery, beautifully nestled into the rolling farm land of Southern New Hampshire

 

Wedding Blog Welcome 2014!

Photo by: Mary Costa Photography

 

Wedding Blog Welcome 2014!

PHOTOGRAPHER: Zac Wolf, working his magic on some of our more recent engagement photos below. More on that in my next post! Wait until you see him work his photog magic!

Wedding Blog Welcome 2014!

Wedding Blog Welcome 2014!

Zac Wolf Photography

 

THE MUSIC: The oh-so-fabulous, DJ Doug Boucher of SOWA Entertainment

THE DRESS: Nice try. I will say, it has pockets. Yeah, pockets. So I can keep the essentials in there, like gummy bears. Best. Thing. Ever.

Also, I recently heard a great old wives’ tale that I thought was pretty sincere and funny at the same time. A recently married woman approached me at my company holiday party last month and asked about my engagement ring. This got us talking about the actual wedding day and if there was any advice she had for a soon-to-be bride like me. She mentioned lots, but my favorite topic was the weather. She told me that if the weather starts to act up, all I have to do is dig a little hole in the ground and put a piece of chocolate in it, then cover it up with the dirt. By feeding Mother Nature chocolate, I will have pleased her and in return she will give me great weather. This woman swore by it. She said the clouds literally formed a circle around her ceremony and reception the whole time. Overhead, it remained sunny the whole day. I thought, if nothing else, it’s a great little story because I’m such a chocolate lover myself. Lord knows, if someone gave me a piece of chocolate, I’d be sunny for them all day, too. We shall see!

Things we are still pinching our little pennies for? A videographer. Our honeymoon. A slow motion booth. Fireworks. Yes, I said fireworks. It is summer after all!

xox, Kate